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Would You Allow Your Child To Get a Tattoo Before He or She Turned 18?

To do so legally before the age of 18, a child needs a waiver signed by a parent.

Moms Talk is a weekly feature on all Lehigh Valley Patches, in which local parents are invited to share opinions and advice on parenting issues.

Each week our Moms Council members will discuss a different issue. Join the conversation by weighing in on a topic or asking questions.  

Our Moms Council members include: 

  • Lisa Amey, of Upper Milford Township, is a stay-at-home mom to an 8-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter. A past president of the MOMS Club of Emmaus and long time member of MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers), Lisa is an Independent Consultant for Arbonne International. 
  • Lisa Drew, of Emmaus, is a certified nutritionist and personal trainer, wellness and fitness coach with more than 17-years experience. She is the mother of a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old boy.
  • Jennifer Elston, of Emmaus, has almost two decades of professional experience in child development and counseling.  She is currently a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful girls. Together with her husband, Chris, she owns Christopher Elston Photography.
  • Jeanne Lombardo of Nazareth is the mother to a 10-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. She’s new to the Lehigh Valley, having moved to Nazareth from Bergen County, N.J. in January.
  • Lisa Merk, of Lower Macungie, is a stay-at-home mother of four boys – a 12-year-old and 6-year-old triplets. Lisa is a past president of the MOMS Club of Lower Macungie East. In her “spare” time, Lisa teaches piano to school-age children.    
  • Zoila Bonilla Paul, of Bethlehem, is a stay-at-home mom to two girls – a five year old and a 14 month old. Zoila is a member of her local “moms’ club” and says she is “well-versed in the fun that children can bring.” 

Introducing Megan Patruno 

The newest member of our Moms Council, Megan Patruno lives in Allentown. She is a mother of three – an 11-year-old boy, an 8-year-old girl and a 6-year-old boy. Megan also works as an admission counselor for Muhlenberg College in Allentown. 

This week’s Moms Talk question comes to us from the editor of the Nazareth Patch, Mallory Vough, who says she’s “not a mom, and doesn’t plan to be one any time soon, unless you count fur babies.” 

Even so, Mallory raises an interesting topic for Moms Talk – tattoos. 

To legally obtain a tattoo in a tattoo parlor before the age of 18, a child needs a waiver signed by a parent. Mallory’s step-mother (and legal guardian at that time) allowed her to get her first tattoo when she was 17 and now she has a total of four tattoos and says she will likely get more.

So here’s what Mallory wants to know: Would you allow your child to get a tattoo before he or she turned 18? Is there really a great difference between getting your first tattoo at 17 with parental consent or making the decision on your own at 18?

Share your thoughts and stories with us in the comments. 

If you would like to become a part of the Moms Council and/or have ideas for future Moms Talk questions, please email jennifer.marangos@patch.com.

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Mallory Vough June 5, 2011 at 07:23 pm
I like the way Della thinks. A lot of thought between my mother and I went into my first tattoo at 17 - design and placement was extremely important. At 17, I was about to graduate (I didn't turn 18 until the summer after my high school graduation), and at that time, I was set on becoming a broadcast journalist. Although my love for print / web journalism (obviously) prevailed over broadcast journalism, the following words from my mother always stuck with me when I - on my own - was deciding on my next tattoos: "If you ever want to be in front of a camera, and if you want a potential employer to take you seriously, always keep the design and placement in mind." With that said, a lot of thought went into the three tattoos I've gotten since that first one at age 17. And when I'm dressed professionally - even just bumming around the house in some cases - no one would ever know that I had a single tattoo. All of them can easily be hidden if necessary, each one has meaning, and I don't regret a single one - and I believe this will remain true when I head for the tattoo parlor again, which may be soon ;-)
Lisa Merk June 5, 2011 at 08:44 pm
My feelings on this matter is absolute. No, not now and not later. I would never approve of my children getting a tattoo and would never sign a waiver. I realize that I will have no say in what they do in their adulthood, but they will (and do) know my feelings on this subject. This is my personal opinion, I don't "believe" in tattooing your body, and I also realize that at this point in time I am a minority. What you may like now at 18, you may not like at 58 and it will still be there. Also, as stated above by Mallory you need to take your future employment into account and again at 18 you just don't know what is going to happen in life, it can take so many different and unexpected directions. Some of my friends got a tattoo on their hip area when they were younger and have since had babies and the tattoo just doesn't look the same.
J. Drew Stefancin June 5, 2011 at 09:51 pm
I can't wrap my mind around tattoos.
Diane Krier June 5, 2011 at 10:10 pm
I agree with Lisa, I had 2 children and would NOT let them get a tatto until they were 18 and if they wanted to then ...It was up to them am whatever design they got they had to live with it...My son got his first when 20 in collage he is now 35 and has a total of 5...My daughter has never gotten any... Now I am raising a granddaughter who is 17 will be 18 in feb.. Statrted bugging me at 16 for one ...I told her the same when ur 18 you can do it if u want until then I will not sign for u to get it done...she says ok but when I am 18 I will...I wonder will she or not we will see.
Mariella Savidge (Editor) June 5, 2011 at 10:42 pm
Admittedly, it's much easier to look back on the fact that my daughters have tattoos, piercings and once even purple hair (a Mother's Day surprise), now that they all have at least one masters degree each and professional careers. On the front end of those trends, however, I wondered what was next and what the new decorations would ultimately lead to. It would have been hard then to get me to say I would allow it or even agree with it. It was out of the question before they were 18 and after that, it was a surprise. Knowing now it didn't lead to anything worse makes it easy for me to say that even though it was a big deal at the time, in the long run, it was not. The fact that a cute angel tattoo may with time and age end up looking like, uh, not a cute angel, is not my problem. But it won't be showing during a job interview, nor did it show in a strapless wedding gown.
Rosemary B June 6, 2011 at 12:02 am
Me, give permission for a tatoo for one of my minor children? When pigs fly...
Mallory Vough June 6, 2011 at 12:27 am
Rosemary - your comment cracked me up ;-) Ya know, even though I was allowed to get a tattoo before the age of 18, I'm not sure if I would ever condone my child (if/when I have any - don't rush me!) getting a tattoo - before or after he or she turns 18. I suppose only time will tell!
Mary Schmidt June 6, 2011 at 12:53 am
My son also wanted to get a tattoo @ age 20, while he was college. Although we had no legal right to prevent him from getting one, we let him know that as long as we were paying for his tuition, housing, food, car , insurance, etc..., that was off limits. Once he is self-supporting and no longer needs us to pay any of his bills, he can tattoo his body all he wants. Otherwise, we still have a say!
voice of reason June 6, 2011 at 01:04 am
Absolutely, I signed a waiver for both my son and daughter to join the military when they were 17, my son then asked for a tattoo when he returned from boot camp and was not quite 18, signed that waiver too, now 17 years later he is an officer in the Marines. They both have no regrets of the "minor" decisions, if you cant trust your 17 year old to be a grown up and make adult decisions then perhaps they shouldnt even be trusted to drive a car until 18
Jennifer Elston June 6, 2011 at 01:11 am
I thought about this all day! I recalled when I was a teen and I wanted a tattoo. Thankfully I never got that tattoo. I know I would have regretted it. I am not against tattoos. I feel like you can't know how you will feel about a tattoo years after it's created. I think I'd persuade my kids to wait. Let them make the decision as adults.
Salisbury Resident June 6, 2011 at 01:18 am
Oddly enough, the mom's council is made up of members that are very similar in many sociological aspects. The council SHOULD consider adding other members (a waitress, a single mom, a "new" mom, an empty nester...etc.).
Jennifer Marangos (Editor) June 6, 2011 at 01:53 am
We are always interested in adding new members to our Moms Council. And, any Patch user can comment on Moms Talk at any time. You don't have to be a member of the Moms Council to add your voice to the mix. For more information on becoming part of the Moms Council or to suggest a Moms Talk question, please email jennifer.marangos@patch.com
Jeanne June 6, 2011 at 03:10 am
I would not allow it for my son or daughter....I am actually on the fence about tattoos in general. I do think, however, if you or your husband have a tattoo....it's harder to put your foot down about them getting a tattoo at any age. I don't think that a 16/17 year old can make adult decisions. I don't think an 18 year old, just because they are at legal age range for certain things can make adult decisions all the time either. I don't know if this can be a blanket answer though....because if a child is very mature, college bound and reasonable....versus one that is constantly playing pranks and screwing up - would that make a difference? I think it may.
david sweeney June 6, 2011 at 11:04 am
Listen to me VERY closely!.....I'm a Man. When I was 18 DISCO was really big......I had these GREAT DISCO SHOES......BIG PLATFORM shoes, just the coolest! But then, the big fad sorta' faded out after a few years and I just threw the shoes away.......try that with that ugly bird?/butteryfly? on your arm...HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAH!!!!!
Pat Vallese June 6, 2011 at 01:00 pm
Some of my best friends have tatto's........but having said that......I grew up in a different time. As a young child, we grew up thinking, that the bearded lady, and the tatto'd lady were freaks....and as you can see, by todays standards, full arm, leg,back, and now face tatto's are everywhere; so in my mind, this over zealous attempt to cover your body with tatto's still harkens back to my thoughts of the circus...and nothing will change that. I've grown to accept one or two small ones here and there. But does it stop at one or two? I consider myself to be kind of "Hip"....but i still can't get my head around a man with an ear ring. So my parents must have raised me with old world values. Women did not get tatto's....and men did not wear ear rings, unless they were pirates.
Mary Anne Looby June 6, 2011 at 02:47 pm
I am an emptynester, and I never would allow any of my four children to get a tattoo. That said, three of the four now have them! The majority of them hid them from me until well into their 20's. They still make sure they are not visible when they are with me! I associate tattoo's with drunken sailors, bikers and freaks. I also think they look dirty. There is nothing worse than having a bride or bridesmaid walk down the aise with a tattoo showing. They are just gross! Why would anyone with any sense do something that, A) costs alot, B) hurts, and C) is a permanent mark on their body. If we tattooed our kids with numbers to identify them the ACLU would be up in arm, not to mention the horrible connection to the death camps of WWII. In my book - tattoos are disgusting.
voice of reason June 6, 2011 at 03:06 pm
Children are not property, they are humans with the ability to make solid judgements for themselves if raised and educated properly... if you cant trust a child at 17 or even 16 what sort of parenting job did you do? How many people get their daughters ears pierced before she can decide if she wants them pierced herself???? To have your mind set on a subject before having an honest conversation with someone is short sighted and not in the best interest of the family dynamic.
Mary Anne Looby June 6, 2011 at 04:12 pm
Of course children are not property! Who thinks like that? They are our children. We bring them into this world and have every right to decide what is good for them. We should not expect them to make solid judgements for themselves even when they are raised and educated properly. To believe that 16 or 17 years olds can and should be trusted is fine, but you have to trust with a grain of salt. It has been that way forever and to think differently is tatamount to sticking your head in the sand. I know kids who are now doctors, lawyers and sucessful businessmen, all of whom, as teenagers, did not make solid judgements for themselves. Do you think it is kids from the ghetto joy riding around your peaceful suburban neighborhoods smashing mailboxes? No, it is the kids from those very nice neighborhoods. Raised will, educated well, still being goofy, dumb teenagers! As far as ear piercing goes I agree that it should not be done until the person is old enough to make that decision and also with parental permission. I hate seeing a baby with pierced ears, although I know that in some cultures it is quite the norm. Parents have had too much decision making taken away from them. Kids can get birthcontrol, abortions ect without parental knowledge. I know most of you Mom's are raising little ones, but mark my words, no matter how hard you try, how much you do, eventually one of your kids will be a typical teen and goof up. You just need to pick your battles wiesely!
Lisa Drew June 6, 2011 at 06:24 pm
No, I wouldn't sign a waiver to allow my kids to get tattoos before they were 18yrs. I am not opposed to tattoos. I'm 39 and still considering getting one; haven't done it and still unsure. My kids are aware of this. I will however give my advice if and when the time comes. When they are 18 they are adults. I will advise as stated earlier in another comment, be careful where you place it on your body and what kind you get.
Helen June 6, 2011 at 08:33 pm
There shouldn't even be a waiver allowed for anyone under 18 to get a tattoo. You think so differently as you get older.
Steve Millen June 6, 2011 at 08:51 pm
I wouldn't let my kids get a tattoo under 18, if they want one after they turn 18, "but as long as they live in my house they will follow my rules!"
Michelle June 6, 2011 at 09:00 pm
Let's just tattoo at birth and get it over with.
93GEO-Metro June 7, 2011 at 11:10 am
Although if kids/people realized how painful it may be to have tattoos permently removed, they might not get them until they're very, very sure, if at all. I saw the pain a lot of guys went thru in the service to have theirs removed. And to date I am tattoo free and plan on remaining so.
ArtmamaJen June 7, 2011 at 01:19 pm
I consider myself a somewhat liberal person, but I would not sign a waiver to let my children get a tattoo before age 18. Once they are 18, if they want one, then so be it. I just want to make sure they are doing it for the right reasons, not because it is trendy or because everyone else is doing it. A tattoo should have meaning and be personalized. The design should well thought out. I think younger kids might get one impulsively and regret it later on.
Mary Anne Looby June 7, 2011 at 03:10 pm
You are smart to say no! The reality is tattooing is trendy, and everyone esle is doing it! Like all fads, it will fade away! I wish I could be around when a child born in 2015 grows up and sees his/her parent's tattoo. Interesting conversation one would think.
Phillyboy June 8, 2011 at 03:07 pm
I personally don't believe children should have any permanent tattoos. What is wrong with just allowing them to wear the kind that wash off. I believe tattoos are just a fad and will eventually become unpopular. If they are still in style when children turn 18, they can make their own decision about getting one.
Christine July 1, 2012 at 01:42 am
I got 2 tattoos at 15 my mom signed a waiver for both I'm not a mom but my moms sister(my aunt) hates the fact that i got them in the first place......its been almost a year since my last one and i DONT regret them at all....both of mine are meaningful and tasteful and can be easily hidden for a job. My parents only stipulations was that I had to take care of the tattoos and that they could be easily hidden for a job and that they were tasteful.
Mom of DnNnD July 1, 2012 at 03:41 am
Ear piercings are not permanent. Tattoos are (unless you pay a lot to have them removed and it's even more painful than the original tattoo). Big difference.
Mom of DnNnD July 1, 2012 at 03:47 am
I would not and did not sign a waiver for my son, no matter how much he begged. He knew I was opposed to it and couldn't justify the expense, especially with graduation, prom, new car, gas and all the other expenses for a teenager. Well, 2 months after 18 he got a tattoo. Thought I wouldn't get mad because he got prayer hands and my dad's name. Huh, huh, huh, BIG mistake. I'm not sentimental and my dad hated tattoos. Let's just say he did not get that new car or the graduation party. And he still hasn't worked up the courage to tell his dad.
J Moore September 17, 2012 at 02:04 am
? for all, my 16 year old daughter went to her father's for the summer and my daughter now has a tatoo without my input or approval. I think her step mother got it for her. Can she legally do so? Any advice how to proceed.
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