.

Will You Let Your Kids Trick-or-Treat Alone?

It’s a tough to decide when, where, how and for how long to let tweens and teens do things on their own. The upcoming night of candy-collecting doesn’t make it any easier.

Moms Talk is a weekly feature on all Lehigh Valley Patches in which local parents, caregivers and other members of the community are invited to share opinions and advice on parenting topics. This week’s Moms Talk relates to trick-or-treating solo.

Our Moms Talk topic this week needs little explanation. It’s a scary world out there and it doesn’t get any less scary whether your young one is dressed as a fairy princess or wearing a zombie costume. The candy-collecting and general horsing around of Halloween night sounds like and should be good clean fun, but…and it’s that “but” that gives every parent and caregiver pause.

And that brings us to this week’s Moms Talk question:

Will you let your kids trick-or-treat alone?

Our Moms Council members include: 

  • Lisa Amey of Upper Milford Township is a stay-at-home mother of two. A past president of the MOMS Club of Emmaus and longtime member of MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers), Lisa is an Independent Consultant for Arbonne International. 
  • Lisa Drew of Emmaus is a certified nutritionist and personal trainer, wellness and fitness coach with more than 17 years of experience. She is the mother of a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old boy.
  • Jennifer Elston of Emmaus has almost two decades of professional experience in child development and counseling. She is currently a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful girls. Together with her husband, Chris, she owns Christopher Elston Photography.
  • Jeanne Lombardo of Nazareth is the mother of a 10-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. She’s new to the Lehigh Valley, having moved to Nazareth from Bergen County, NJ in January.
  • Lisa Merk of Lower Macungie is a stay-at-home mother of four boys – a 14-year-old and 8-year-old triplets. Lisa is a past president of the MOMS Club of Lower Macungie East. In her “spare” time, Lisa teaches piano to school-age children.
  • Zoila Bonilla Paul of Bethlehem is a stay-at-home mom to two girls – a 5-year-old and a 14-month-old. Zoila is a member of her local “moms’ club” and says she is “well-versed in the fun that children can bring.”
  • Beth Sharpless of Emmaus works part time in a local emergency department as a nurse and part time from home as a customer support specialist. She has two children -- a boy who is 3 and a 6-year-old girl. She says they love spending time outdoors and dancing.

If you would like to become a part of the Moms Council and/or have ideas for future Moms Talk questions, please email jennifer.marangos@patch.com.

Lisa Merk October 21, 2012 at 05:24 PM
We let our oldest trick-or-treat with a group of his friends when he was 12 and he wasn't allowed to leave the neighborhood. We don't live in a huge neighborhood, so we knew we'd pass him a few times (as well as the other parents of the kids that were in his group). So we felt ok about it, not thrilled but ok. As this point, I don't know if we'll ever let the trio go out alone.
Mary Anne Looby October 21, 2012 at 08:31 PM
I don't think kids should be trick or treating after the age of 14. That said, I would think that kids from 10 to 14 should be allowed to go it alone, as long as they are with a group and stick to the agreed upon neighborhood. I disagree with kids leaving their neighborhoods to go to others. So many homes are in developments and you can get up to 100 kids from your neighborhood alone. Having kids cross neighboring lines causes problems.
Jay Bell October 21, 2012 at 10:18 PM
Will I let my kids 'trick or treat' alone? Uh, definitely not. I wouldn't even allow my friends' children to 'trick or treat' alone!! Remember Jessica Ridgeway!! www.firebrandcentral.com
Beth October 22, 2012 at 02:46 AM
My kids are too young to be trick-or-treating alone, but I'd say it depends on the kid and their friends. Probably 12 years old or so, would be a good age for kids to "go it alone"-again, depending on the kid and their friends. And, as long as they have a costume. No treats for kids not in costume.
tamarya October 22, 2012 at 03:26 PM
Like I posted on facebook, I grew out of it by my teenage yrs. But as long as you know your kid is out trick or treating and not causing problems, like tic tacking, vandalizing, swiping candy from younger children, then I say they could go themselves as teenagers however if going and I would know they are up to no good then that would be then end of them going. Personally I think it is more for younger children anyway, kind of like small children believe in santa and the easter bunny but not teenagers. There is a time they have to grow up.
Lisa Amey October 23, 2012 at 10:39 AM
My kids are too young to trick or treat alone. Perhaps when they are 12 or so, if they demonstrate the maturity and responsibility needed. Where we live, there are no sidewalks or street lights and the houses are spread out, so it can be very dangerous walking from house to house in the dark.
Anonymous October 23, 2012 at 12:03 PM
If you are a Christian, I challenge you to please re-think how you celebrate the holidays. I know it is hard to go against the flow...but we have been blessed by not doing things as the non Christians. We do not celebrate the religious holiday of Halloween. You can think I am crazy, but the Bible talked about witches being the enemy and that they get their powers from the devil (it certainly is NOT from God). Just over the years how popular the Wicca movement has become should alarm mothers everywhere that their children are being lured into witchcraft. We also have never lied to our kids about a SAnta Claus (though we teach of St Nicholas who was a real person who gave anonymously), nor about the tooth fairy or Easter bunny. Our kids LOVE to dress up any time of the year and get candy as prizes at a local church who has a fun candy carnival with a gospel message (Ebenezer Bible Fellowship). Sometimes we go to a friends house and have games and hunt for those hiding with candy. It is a harvest celebration and nobody is dressed like anything evil. When you celebrate Halloween as it has turned into a celebration of evil. Also when kids find out that Santa is not real, they will assume that Jesus is just a made of fairy tale to trick adults into behaving. This is logical to think since their parents lied to them so much as a child. PLease consider not celebrating Halloween or telling your kids lies about Santa, Easter bunny etc. Celebrate in the truth of Jesus.
Hellertown Mom October 23, 2012 at 12:10 PM
Halloween is not a religious holiday, nor is it a celebration of evil. It's celebrated by people of all faiths, not just "non-Christians." It's "All-Hallows Eve," the night before All Saints Day, which is celebrated by Catholics. Dressing your children up as the Little Mermaid or a cowboy and walking through your neighborhood for treats is a far cry from "luring children into witchcraft." My kids have reached the age that they know Santa isn't real, but guess what? They still believe in Jesus. How did that happen, I wonder? You are perfectly entitled to skip Halloween on religious grounds. However, you are not entitled to push your religious views on others.
Allan Bach October 23, 2012 at 12:16 PM
Why would a Christian, especially one who desires to share her faith, use a pseudonym when posting?
bigmomma October 23, 2012 at 06:56 PM
Hey Anonymous-if Halloween is so evil, how come my decorations all have smile? Is my happy ghost smiling because its going to steal my soul! Lighten up & stop using every holiday celebration to push your personal beliefs on others! My child believes in God although she's never seen him at the mall taking pictures.
Jennifer Elston October 24, 2012 at 12:51 AM
I would not let me kids trick or treat alone--they are only 5 & 8. Possibly when they are 12 or 13. It all depends on how they mature.

Boards

More »
Got a question? Something on your mind? Talk to your community, directly.
Note Article
Just a short thought to get the word out quickly about anything in your neighborhood.
Share something with your neighbors.What's on your mind?What's on your mind?Make an announcement, speak your mind, or sell somethingPost something