Fill in the blank: 'When I have kids, I'll never …'

Be honest. Every parent crosses that line. The first time it’s shocking. After that it gets much easier. What do you do now that you have kids that you swore you wouldn’t?

Moms Talk is a weekly feature on all Lehigh Valley Patches in which local parents, caregivers and other members of the community are invited to share opinions and advice on parenting topics.

This week’s Moms Talk question comes to us from Moms Council member Jennifer Elston and it relates to the way parenthood changes you:

“Back in my day, we used to walk to five miles to school, in the snow, barefoot, up hill, both ways…” There are so many things that you simply can’t understand until you become a parent or have a little person in your life. And, there are so many things that the “grown-ups” did when you were young that you couldn’t understand or swore you wouldn’t do if you had kids.

Well, it’s true confession time…Here’s what Jen wants to know if you’re brave enough to tell us:

What are things you do as a parent that you swore you'd never do?

Our Moms Council members include: 

  • Lisa Amey of Upper Milford Township is a stay-at-home mom to an 8-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. A past president of the MOMS Club of Emmaus and longtime member of MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers), Lisa is an Independent Consultant for Arbonne International. 
  • Lisa Drew of Emmaus is a certified nutritionist and personal trainer, wellness and fitness coach with more than 17 years of experience. She is the mother of a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old boy.
  • Jennifer Elston of Emmaus has almost two decades of professional experience in child development and counseling. She is currently a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful girls. Together with her husband, Chris, she owns Christopher Elston Photography.
  • Jeanne Lombardo of Nazareth is the mother of a 10-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. She’s new to the Lehigh Valley, having moved to Nazareth from Bergen County, NJ in January.
  • Lisa Merk of Lower Macungie is a stay-at-home mother of four boys – a 12-year-old and 6-year-old triplets. Lisa is a past president of the MOMS Club of Lower Macungie East. In her “spare” time, Lisa teaches piano to school-age children.
  • Zoila Bonilla Paul of Bethlehem is a stay-at-home mom to two girls – a 5-year-old and a 14-month-old. Zoila is a member of her local “moms’ club” and says she is “well-versed in the fun that children can bring.”
  • Beth Sharpless of Emmaus works part time in a local emergency department as a nurse and part time from home as a customer support specialist. She has two children -- a boy who is almost 2 and a 5-year-old girl. She says they love spending time outdoors and dancing.
  • Jennifer Willenbrock of Nazareth is mom to two beautiful daughters, ages 5 and 6 weeks. She was previously employed by Catholic Charities, where she worked in a girl’s group home in Philipsburg, N.J.  

If you would like to become a part of the Moms Council and/or have ideas for future Moms Talk questions, please email jennifer.marangos@patch.com.

Collee davis February 05, 2012 at 08:41 PM
.......say never! ;-)
Jennifer Elston February 05, 2012 at 09:04 PM
I let my kids watch way more tv than I am comfortable saying here. I also let my kids were unmatching clothing because I realize that isn't a battle I want to fight!
Beth February 05, 2012 at 09:10 PM
The TV thing is a big one for me too. We need to cut way back. That's something I have to change for sure.
J Parker February 06, 2012 at 03:12 AM
Wow as a mother to a 20 yr old boy and 18 yr old girl and a 15 yr old boy I have a laundry list of what I used to think I would never do when I had kids. Using swear words in front of or "at" my children was something I had seen othersdo and used to think it was THE most awfull thing ever, key word "used" to think, once it slips out the first time it seems like theres no turning back. I'm sure my kids use those words but never in front of me. Thats just one thing I could write pages and pages.........Your parenting changes with each child accordingly.
Sheila Corley February 06, 2012 at 01:39 PM
I'm with J Parker....my list is too long to write! I have three children ages 7, 6 and 3. With my first(girl) I was able to live up to my expectaions but 16 months later came my second and I had to let go a little, the second child was a boy which is a whole other ball of wax from the girl so we dealt with what at the time we thought were behavior issues from the age of two. My husband and I joke about or third child saying that he gets the least amount of "parenting", gets away with almost everything, and will probably turn out to be the most "normal" because we don't have time to put or own neurosis on him! My life circumstances have forced me to let go of all the big expectations for how I thought I should be as a parent. I think this was a really good thing. Each child is different and requires a different parenting style. I try to remember that I am raising individual people....they are not perfect and neither am I !!!
Lisa Amey February 06, 2012 at 07:42 PM
I thought I'd have so much more patience and would be able to reason with my kids so much more than I actually can!
Sheila Corley February 06, 2012 at 09:24 PM
LOL Lisa.....same here! I've always been good with other people's kids....I thought I would be like the "horse whisperer" only with kids! Turns out.....not so much! Much more yelling going on than whispering!
Mary Anne Looby February 06, 2012 at 09:49 PM
I'll never compare them to each other, and I never did.
Jennifer Elston February 07, 2012 at 03:09 PM
I also thought I would NEVER raise my voice with my kids. ha
Gerry Kranz February 08, 2012 at 12:29 AM
... never raise my kids near registered sex offenders and put them in harms way while blaming others...
Closer than you think February 08, 2012 at 03:42 PM
registered sex offenders are closer than you think.... http://www.pameganslaw.state.pa.us/SearchLocation.aspx
Jennifer Marangos (Editor) February 08, 2012 at 05:07 PM
That I would NEVER spank them. Did it once with each of them and it was because they were about to run into a busy street. Think that particular never was busted at about one-year-old for each of the boys...


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